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資料來æºï¼šhttp://www.douban.com/subject/1349577/
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2008 august
Ming Pao published.
上海liu da lin professor
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sorry is published by 2000 august
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i just read a biographical work about a Japanese girl working as a ‘assisted PR’, felt so sad n couldn’t sleep last night. I reflected n thought, if there could be a more open-minded atmosphere for teenagers to talk about sex n understand it when they r young, if they r taught properly, chances to hear these sad stories would be much less. part of the reason I feel sad when reading the book is because i know cases like these really exist, so why do we have to pretend we know nothing about it? like it doesn’t exist in our society n it’s not relevant to us?
I never feel easy with the situation that men can abuse us in hundred secret(or public) ways but they refuse to face it, they hide n evade their responsibilities. however, what is more sadden is even some of us, we female r ashamed to talk about it too.
maybe this is not relevant to this newspaper issue here, but i truly agree with the idea that sex education (without any bias)is truly essential n we have to keep a site that allows discussion, debates n opinions, an open one.
the book: http://www.douban.com/subject/2062719/
(見到有個人å«åšé›™æ•¸å®œ,å·®d嚇親啊,hi there)(笑)
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It seems that’s alright when we talk about health, sickness, gossips in the public, but we hardly heard any conversation about sex health in public transport. Talking about sex in public is still a taboo.
If people only hold the way of thinking like “Sex = sexual activity”, then they might feel shy to talk about their sexual experience. However, there’s still a lot of knowledge about sexual activity, sex health, gender, etc. I’m still trying to talk about this is a more relax way with friends.